I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.
Umberto Eco, Foucault’s Pendulum
I love being a father and having a wonderful father that has taught me how to be a father. It’s not easy work! As a child I know there were times when I was challenging. Now that I am on the other side of the fence, I can see more clearly the generational links between fatherhood, and experience what it’s like to enjoy a taste of my own medicine from my son.
One thing I have learned from my father is that it’s not the big moments that are so important, but the many little ones. It’s one reason that I decided a decade ago to take a job where I get to work from home. While I have enjoyed being there for Trevor for the big moments, honestly, it’s our unstructured time day to day just hanging out that I would not trade for anything.
Another scrap of wisdom from my dad is that it helps to like what you do for a living. He was a college professor who never missed a day of work. While pretty obvious guidance, with 70% of the workforce not excited about their jobs, it’s advice worth repeating. And repeating. And repeating.
So Happy Father’s Day Dad. And Happy Father’s Day to myself! We are now in the same boat.